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Where Did The Romance Go?

relationshipHave I told you all that I have the most wonderful man ever to call my very own? I do. And sometimes I have a tendency to forget just how lucky I am. I have taken him for granted time and time again, but he has stood by me, and I am very grateful for that. I’ll tell you, he really stepped up to the plate when he and I got together. I was me (crazy as all get out from the get go) and I had a two and four year old to boot! Sometimes I wonder what on earth he was thinking. Other times, I thank God that he didn’t run for the hills at the first sign of disaster. Now, it’s time that I start doing for him…

As a mom of two who works as much as I do, I can sometimes (as in almost always) forget that it’s important to be more than the girl at the office, and to be mommy, but to also be a loving girlfriend. Over the last three and a half years, I’ve gotten fairly comfortable. I don’t shave my legs daily anymore (he’s lucky if I shave them once a week), most days I don’t have any makeup on, and my hair could be sticking any way for all I know. It’s great to be intimate enough to be this comfortable, but sometimes I wonder if he misses the person that used to try a little harder to be sexy for him. All of that is going to change.

Starting now, I’m going to make sure that we have a date night, at least once a month. I don’t mean something big and expensive… I mean a night where we focus on US and not everything else. At least one night with no kids in sight (or earshot!) to worry about. A night with high heels and makeup. A night where I do more than roll out of bed and run my fingers through my hair. A night that I make sure to let him know what he means to me.

The tricky part to all of this is figuring out what to do and how to do it. I’m not big on dinner and a movie. I mean, you can’t talk in a movie… And if you know anything about me, you know I love to talk. My idea is something simple.  I just want to get the kids out of the house, whether it’s for a few hours, or for the night. I want a nice, candlelit dinner, and no phones. Ideally, there would be no distractions from anything and it would just be great to unwind and be able to talk about our lives and our future. As it gets warmer, I have other ideas, but you’ll have to wait to hear them…

If you, too, have fallen into a rut of some sort, I challenge you to start making sure to have at least one night a month to focus on nothing but your significant other. If you haven’t, I’d like to know what you’re doing to keep things going strong. I’d always love to hear your ideas and put them to the test, so comment below!

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